Preparing for your Erotica Session!
First- check out the Erotica Gallery page for ideas on what my other sessions look like.
I have also curated some stunning inspiration on my Pinterest board- feel free to create your own board and pin your favorite ideas, as well as share your favorites with me so I can get a vibe of what you're going for!
5+ days before your Session:
• If you are getting a tattoo or piercing soon, please ensure your appointment is at least 2 weeks prior to your session to avoid photos with infected, cracked, or peeling skin.
• Drink plenty of water and limit alcohol & salt intake if you are concerned with water retention.
• If you wax, please do so a few days before to avoid any bumpiness or redness.
• If you are planning to go to a salon for a haircut or color, please do so at least 5 days before your session to make sure you are happy with the outcome--and if not, it allows you to reschedule within the required 3 days before the session.
• If you are planning a salon manicure or pedicure, try to steer clear of French tips or individual fingers (ex: Ring Finger) being painted differently than the rest of the hand. These tend to draw too much attention to the hands and we want to focus on you!
All that is really needed however is having your hands and feet neatly groomed
(cut, polished, and skin smooth-- not rough).
• STAY OUT OF THE SUN - While a tan is nice to some, red burned skin with sunburn or peeling skin is not-- however if this has already occurred, feel free to let me know in advance so I can recommend ways to calm the skin and ensure I pay attention to this while doing the session!
• PLEASE DO NOT SPRAY TAN FOR YOUR SESSION.
It will ALWAYS look blotchy and uneven on camera.
• If the Erotica session includes a masturbation or ejaculation scene: it is in your own best interest to refrain from self-pleasure for at least a few days beforehand, and/or practice self-edging/self-restraint. This will ensure ejaculation does occur during the session.
• If the Erotica session includes a masturbation or ejaculation scene: Please ensure you know how your body typically releases so that the Photographer can avoid surprise mishaps. Clean-up typically involves baby wipes and/or paper towels. Please try to avoid getting bodily fluids on the Couch, Rugs, or other fabric furniture. Fabrics draped over the furniture will be used to shield against general mishaps.
• TRY ON ALL OUTFITS, SHOES, AND ACCESSORIES A WEEK BEFOREHAND!!!!
You want to ensure your outfits fit how you like at least 5 days before your Session to ensure proper fit. The LAST thing you want is to start your session, trying on clothes that don't fit and no longer feeling confident anymore in your outfits.
The day BEFORE your Session:
• Bathe (or shower), exfoliate and moisturize.
• If you shave, this is the time to do it. (Shaving anything is not required!)
Shaving refers specifically to body hair, facial hair, or trim-ups of close-shaved heads.
• CUT OFF AND REMOVE all tags, sizes & care labels from outfits, especially from lingerie and panties. (Especially those La Senza and Victoria's Secret 2-inch long pink tags). Failure to do so means I will be doing this during session time, which takes away from photography time.
• Ensure any undergarments worn are free of stains, wear, tear, or look worn out.
This includes boxers or briefs, ties, socks, shoes, lingerie, etc.
• Double-check that everything is packed; Shoes, outfits, lingerie, accessories, etc
• If you are bringing personal items (aka toys, lube, etc) ensure they are clean/sanitized/charged and ready to go in your packed bag!
• If the Erotica session includes a masturbation or ejaculation scene and you believe you may have issues, you may bring Viagra/Forta/Durazest/cock rings to the session and/or Delay Spray (Stud100, Benzo spray) to keep from releasing too quickly.
These products can be found online, through a pharmacy, or at a local sex shop like Passionate Kisses (Oak Street).
• Try to enjoy a relaxed, quiet evening.
• Aim for a good night's rest- 8 hours is ideal.
(Melatonin always helps me sleep when I have nerves.)
The Day OF your Session:
• Wear clear deodorant (or deodorant that promises no white marks!)
• Wear loose-fitting clothing before your session to avoid tight marks on your skin.
(NO TIGHT jeans, tight belts, tight socks, tight clothing, or bras with tight straps)
• PLEASE EAT BEFORE YOUR SESSION.
Aim for a light but filling meal and drink water. There are too many clients who will skip meals for fear of bloat and then feel lightheaded or sick during their session because they avoided eating beforehand.
If you are concerned about feeling bloated, steer clear of salty foods and drink water.
• Brush your teeth after you eat!
The day gets busy, but the last I would want for someone is to do everything on the list and forget this important step: I photograph laughter and smiles too!
• If you have requested an HMUA from me (or you hired your own separately) ensure you have a clean face and avoid putting your hair up.
If you have hired your own HMUA separately, ensure they arrive at LEAST 90 minutes before your scheduled session so that your artist has ample time with you and nobody is rushed.
• If you haven't already sent in your final outstanding balance, please have the payment ready before the session starts (either via Cash or e-transfer)
• PLEASE STRETCH BEFOREHAND. Yoga or light stretching is extremely recommended--sometimes holding a certain pose or moving a specific way can feel like a workout, and I am often told about how my clients feel like they've used muscles they didn't even realize they had! So be sure to stretch and make sure you are warmed up and limber for your session! A relaxing shower or bath is definitely a GREAT idea the night after your Session--- you deserve some self-care pampering!
• Most important: Take a DEEP breath, and RELAX.
It is completely normal and expected for nerves to happen, rest assured you will be in good hands. I will guide your posing, and work with you to get the shot.
Here are some tips that will maximize your preparation for your Session!
• Visualize the outfits, shoes, and accessories you will want for your Session.
Flip through your favourite fashion magazines or Pinterest to discover different ways to pair colours, fabrics and styles for a look that fits your esthetic. Accessorize with watches and shoes, ties, rings, necklaces, etc.
If you are in doubt, bring it anyway and I can help with styling.
• Shop your closet first for the items you instinctively collect when you want to look
(or feel) you are most confident. If that means you are most confident in the nude, or topless, that is 100% fine with me- Allow your imagination to roam!
• BODYSUITS ARE AMAZING FOR EVERYBODY!
I have a personal love for bodysuits in any and all sizes and shapes.
Bodysuits are playful, form-fitting, and fit almost any style.
• WHEN POSSIBLE- AVOID BABYDOLLS/CHEMISE/OPEN FRONT BABYDOLLS
These tend to make clients look wider on camera than in person and because they are not form-fitting they won't always look quite right in photos. This also goes for neon or bright outfits. Try to steer clear of the hot pink or the sultry purple, unless it is a statement piece that compliments the rest of the outfit.
• CHEEKY IS BEST!
Please avoid Gstring or Tstring underwear, and instead opt for either cheeky panties, thongs with a triangle back, or high rise.
• BE WARY OF CORSETS
Corsets are beautiful, but I find more often than not they take a long time to put on/take off, they tend to leave marks on the skin (If you decide to change up your outfit midway through) and they are stiff and harder to pose in. Please be wary.
•Please avoid distracting graphics and clothing with brand names or logos.
This is distracting and takes away from YOU.
• Erotica sessions vary from person to person. What one person or couple may be comfortable with, another may not be. I never make assumptions about comfort. That's why I send the questionnaire. If you have something you'd like to bring but are unsure if you mentioned it in the questionnaire, please feel free to connect with me. I am always up for brainstorming and planning out how you would like your session to look and feel.
Lingerie Vendor Recommendations!
LOCAL:
• Passionate Kisses (174 Oak St W, North Bay, ON)
• Cintra May's (163 Main St W North Bay, ON)
• The Annex (172 Main St W, North Bay, ON)
• La Senza (Northgate Mall, North Bay, ON)
• Urban Planet (Northgate Mall, North Bay, ON)
• Le Chateau- Heels & Accessories (Northgate Mall, North Bay, ON)
• La Vie en Rose (Northgate Mall, North Bay, ON)
• Penningtons (955 McKeown Ave, North Bay, ON)
• Winners (850 McKeown Ave, North Bay, ON)
ONLINE:
Adult Shop Recommendations!
LOCAL:
• Passionate Kisses (174 Oak St W, North Bay, ON)
• Spencers (1500 Fisher St, North Bay - Northgate Mall)
ONLINE:
Final Suggestions
• CONFIDENCE IS KEY
Choose and bring only what makes YOU feel confident and empowered.
If that's a lacy black lingerie set, cool. If it's boyshorts and a sports top, that's awesome! If you prefer being in the nude, alright with me. If you are more inclined to wear a suit blazer and pants, we will ROCK that!
• During the Session I ask you to be very clear, concise, and open with communication with me.
I will continually ask if you are doing good, if you need a minute, ask if you need water or a break, etc. If anyone involved in the Session starts to become silent or unresponsive, I will stop the session immediately to ensure everyone is okay.
Understand that this will not feel the same as what you've been led to see on adult film sites. The Photographer & team are not an active part of the Erotica session.
The overall professional demeanor is adjacent to a medical professional's bedside manner.
I look forward to working with you, and if you have any questions do not hesitate to reach out!
